This weekend, Robert and I will celebrate our First Anniversary!
WOW. One whole year has passed since the day I said, “I do.” I can’t believe how fast it went by.
As I look back on our year of wedded bliss, I thought I’d share a little bit of where I came from: It’s my Story of Waiting.
As always, my hope is that my story encourages you in the midst of your life’s challenges (which are inevitable).
An Insane Vow
In 2002, I made an commitment to God that I would not kiss any man unless he proposed marriage…
Why did I do this? It’s not because I think kissing is a sin or anything. I knew that, passionate Latin woman that I am, kissing could lead to other things…and I wanted to wait. I wanted to wait for my engagement and I wanted to wait for my wedding night.
Also, I never felt at peace with any of the guys I dated and I wanted my engagement kiss to be pure, passionate, and full of hope.
So, exactly one year ago, my life-long dream came true. I married my sweetheart, Robert, and had the best wedding day of my life.
I was 37 years old when I married Robert on August 10, 2013.
I waited a loooooooong time for our kiss and our wedding night! 11 YEARS – and 3 months – to be exact!
Everyone Thought I Was Out of my Mind
Our culture seems to be anti-waiting. We have fast checkout lines, credit cards to “help” us buy now and pay later, and drive-thrus. We drink instant coffee, eat instant oatmeal… We live an instant LIFE.
We are impatient people, aren’t we?
We want those extra pounds off TODAY.
Waiting, wanting… these are unpleasant places to be in. We have to have it now!
I understand waiting. Trust me.
I understand the feeling of wanting to give up when it seems like you’re not making progress in your career, your weight loss, your dating efforts, or any number of life endeavors.
We all go through times of frustration and even hopelessness. And waiting is the absolute LAST thing we want to do, isn’t it?
“Good Things Come to Those Who Wait”
You may have heard this before – and it’s really true.
What are you waiting for right now?
What have you almost or already given up on?
WAIT. BE PATIENT.
- If you’re single, don’t settle. Wait for God’s best for you.
- If you’re working at weight loss, be patient with your progress. Enjoy the journey.
- If you’re not yet reaching your business goals, focus on the long-term. Ups and downs are inevitable.
- If you’re struggling in your marriage, be patient with your partner. The challenges will strengthen you.
I believe that because I waited, God has blessed me greatly during my first year of marriage to Robert.
Here are just a few highlights of Year #1:
1. I’ve felt indescribable gratitude. Sometimes, as Robert is laying next to me at night, tears still come to my eyes when I kiss Robert goodnight and thank him for being part of my life. I will never forget my struggle with the years of loneliness.
2. My step-daughters Jordyn and Rachel have been loving, accepting, and respectful to me. Although they’re challenging once in a while, they add a spice to my life that I didn’t have before. I was very afraid of how our adjustment would be to each other and, miraculously, it’s been quite smooth.
3. I not only have a husband, God blessed me with a companion and friend who bikes, snowboards, and trains at the gym with me. He even likes it when I put him through “his workouts of death” and shares my passion for Usana’s supplements, healthy cooking, and exercise. He’s also my business partner, supporting my endeavors and helping me with our day-to-day operations.
4. It’s wonderful to be married to a Positive Person! While my passion and mission is to INSPIRE and help you master your mindset, I have my down days, too. (Shocker, I know!) Most people don’t see the funny, goofy side of Robert I get to enjoy. He makes me laugh, he helps me lighten up, and he brings a “half glass full” perspective on my not-so-bright days.
It’s your turn now.
I share my story so that you can see that my life wasn’t always “blissful.”
While it still isn’t perfect (whose is?) and Robert and I don’t like each other sometimes (as anyone who’s married can relate), I do believe that God has blessed me because I waited.
I can’t say I’m perfect at waiting and I definitely shook my fist at God for years, wondering if He’d forgotten me.
But I now look back with immense gratitude of all I learned while I waited – and that the waiting has long ended.
How about you? In what area of your life are you being impatient? And what can you do to deal with the struggle of waiting until it’s your time?
I’d love to hear from you.
Committed to your success,